I recently had someone tell me that my viewpoints on life are…as she put it, delusional. That I have an unrealistic idea of what life is, and that I am juvenile in my thinking of life.
Talk about SHADE *where are my sunglasses*.
My first thoughts were who are you, and how did you become the czar on life? Essentially, her theory was that because I haven’t experienced what she experienced in life, I know absolutely nothing.
Let me tell you what I do know about life:
- Life can be pretty good — simply put, life is amazing. There are so many wonderful things that we experience in life, many that we take for granted. When was the last time you woke up early just to see the sun rise in all of its many splendid colors? It’s amazing! I have a family that loves me, and friends that will always support me. I look forward to the future — being successful in my career and having a family of my own. I have joy! I live by Psalm 37:4, “Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart.” I thank God for His many blessings, and the blessings yet to come.
- Life can be pretty bad — With every high, there is a low. Every now and then we are bound to run into a bump in the road. Sometimes bad things happen to good people. People get sick. People die. People get hurt. People hurt others. Life doesn’t always go the way we want it to. We get flat tires and broken cars. There is a child who will go to bed hungry tonight. The list goes on…there are plenty of ‘bad stuff’ that can happen to us during the course of the day. For some life feels unbearable. Life is just too hard, and you have no desire to even wake up in the morning. I felt like this many days. Just as life can be amazing, life can be utterly brutal.
- There’s Hope — “Life sucks and then it gets better, and then it sucks again”…but it will eventually get better. Life is a series of ups and downs. Even in the darkest moments I have faith. I know that there is light at the end of the tunnel. I believe in adversity; every hardship that we go through will only make us stronger. We don’t have to like or understand it. But I have hope in humanity. I choose to believe that there is greater good in the world than there is evil. I know there is.
We all have different journeys in life. Different forms of happiness, sadness, heartache and joy. You will experience things in life that I never will, and vice vera, I’ll experience things in life that you never well. But that does not make one’s experiences in life any greater than that of anothers. Our individual experiences make us who we are, forming our thoughts and opinions. But you can’t use those thoughts and opinions to outweigh someone else’s.
Just because I have not experienced exactly what you experienced in life, does not mean that I have no valuable experiences from which I have learned from, and perhaps have allowed me to sympathize with yours. I’ve never been shot, and hopefully I never will, but I’ve felt enough pain and hurt to know that being shot would probably hurt pretty bad.
Most important, just because I choose to hope, does not mean I am delusional to the fact that the world is not all butterflies and rainbows. Life is not perfect, and believe me, I know that. I simply make a choice. I can choose to let the ‘bad’ outweigh the ‘good’, or I can choose to believe that there is something better for my life. I can choose to believe that one rotten apple does not ruin the whole bunch. Life is 50% what you are given, and 50% what you make it. I choose to make it good.
If my choosing to live an optimistic life makes me delusional, then call me crazy. I feel sorry that you live in a world where there’s no hope and no promise of happiness. I pray one day you will find happiness in your life to develop hope for yourself and those around you. Again, I’m not pretending that life is perfect, believing that nothing can go wrong. What I’m saying is that you have to hold on to the fact that light always trumps darkness. Believe that even the smallest light can exist in darkness, but darkness can not exist in light. Life always finds a way….
PS: Unicorns do exist….and they poot rainbows! Now that’s delusional…
Until Next Time,