Loving yourself is the greatest revolution…
See this girl here. She’s the same girl — same body, same ‘flaws’ — but she’s a totally different person. Most times when we think of the term ‘before and after’, we think of something physical, something that has visibly changed. For many, it is weight loss, a new hairdo, a new wardrobe. For me, it’s something not as evident.
In the style of Patti LaBelle, “She’s got a new attitude.”
Not in the ‘oh no you didn’t’ type of way, but in the acceptance of everything that makes me, me.
It’s amazing how time can heal wounds of insecurity and self-doubt, filling in the chunks of missing confidence.
My mom always says, “How you feel on the outside, reflects on the inside.” And as always, she was right. I’m beginning to feel more confident in my body, having a new appreciation for the state that it is in. I’m doing things now that I was uncomfortable doing just months ago. I feel free to be authentic, not having to worry about being scrutinized and compared to the ideal standard of beauty.
I still have my moments of insecurity. But now looking into the mirror, I can now look at myself in the mirror and say, “I love you,” and absolutely mean it.
My size hasn’t changed. I’m literally the same now as I was a year ago. What has changed is me.
Time heals. It doesn’t happen overnight. There’s no golden ticket. And it’s not the same for everyone. I wish I could pinpoint and tell you exactly when and how things began to click into place for me. The best thing I can tell you is to have patience, and most importantly, find it in yourself to forgive. Forgive yourself for the years of hurt, mean words, and scornful side-eyes that you’ve given yourself. Stop being your own worst critic. Start edifying your words. Speak words of encouragement, and support, that will keep you motivated to simply enjoy and appreciate life.
Continue to speak it, and time will help you believe it.
Until Next Time,