A couple of months ago, I joined a ‘curvy girl’ support group for women who are curvy and trying to become more healthy — being more active and eating healthier foods. It is a great support system, full of women who are encouraging each other. As I was browsing the group, I came across a status that nearly broke my heart. Long story short, another member of the group was having a hard day, feeling inadequate, unattractive, and being extremely hard on herself. All this stemming from an interaction that she had with her ‘man’ friend, that left her feeling invalidated in her beauty. To the point where she wanted to isolate herself from society.

This made me so sad….and if I’m to be honest, reminded me of my own insecurities.

We all have moments of uncertainty. Wanting or feeling the need to be perfect, to be pretty, to be cool. Or the desire to be someone else more worthy of the love, affection, and attention of others.  It’s a part of growing up that we all go through as teenagers and adults.

But when these thoughts and feelings begin to transcend the very being of who we are, and how we genuinely feel about ourselves, it’s a very sad situation.

I know this is a lot easier ‘said’ than ‘done’…but I encourage you — my brothers and sisters — to simply enjoy being who you are! Be yourself. Love yourself for your flaws. Love yourself for your uniqueness. Love yourself for every single thing that makes you ‘you’.

Most importantly, seek validation from yourself as the priority of your being. What does this mean? It means finding confidence in who you are and what you stand for. It means loving yourself first, before seeking the love of others. It means reminding yourself that you are fully capable of doing whatever you put your mind to. Speaking positivity into your life, even in times of hardship and struggle. It means believing that you are fearfully and wonderfully made…despite what anyone tells you, including your own voice!

Believe it or not, you are capable of standing on your own two feet…believe in who you are…be you!

[Tweet “Encourage yourself, believe in yourself, and love yourself. Never doubt who you are.””] ― Stephanie Lahar

For the first time ever, I have a speaking engagement for an non-profit organization called I Dare to Care! I am beyond nervous, public speaking is not something that I am overly fond of. But the theme for this year’s conference is something that I am extremely passionate about — ‘Being You’. Being your true, authentic self. I would love for you all to watch live, so make sure to subscribe to our Facebook Page for more details!

Until Next Time,


Maya is owner of Pink Caboodle, specializing in Fashion and Body Positivity.

  1. We definitely all have those moments whether they’re brought on by insensitive comments or we’re just having a bad day in general. I tend to pick at myself on bad days which just makes it worse. Thank you so much for your wonderful, positive post!

    1. You are right…it’s easy to kick ourselves when we’re already down. It takes a conscious effort to encourage and motivate ourselves, especially when we don’t feel we deserve it. But we can do it! One step, and one day at a time 🙂

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