Double texting. No messaging after 7PM. Avoid serious topics…the list goes on and on. Who knew there were so many rules to ‘dating’? And to be honest, I’m having a hard time navigating them all.
Life was much simpler back in the day, when my only thoughts on love were that of fairy tales and Prince Charmings — he always seemed to just magically show up, and they’d live happily ever after. Now, at 29, I know better…finding love doesn’t work this way.
It requires work. It requires time. It requires a whole lot of patience. And yes, it may even require failure.
In the past, this is something that I’ve found intimidating. Worried of looking dumb or sounding stupid. On a first date, what do you do? What do you say?
So, I never really put myself out there to try…until now.
I was talking to my brother about a potential suitor, whether or not he was interested, am I mixing signals, etc. I know, my brother is the greatest. He asked me this question that left me completely clueless: Is he double texting you?
Please tell me I’m not the only one who had no clue what this means. Here’s what Urban Dictionary had to say:
Sending two texts in a row without a reply in between.
Easy enough, right? According to my brother, this is a sign of interest. I don’t know whether or not this is true…but I’m learning that in the world of dating, there are many rules and social cues I’m supposed to follow.
Ultimately, I’m just going to continue to be myself, and whatever happens, happens. But if there are things that I should keep in mind, I am definitely open to hearing them.
I could Google all day long (spent some time doing that today). While Google is great, I want to hear for you! From your experience, what are somethings I should keep in mind for my own dating journey?
What are some great conversation starters I should try?
What can I do to continue to spark interest?
Let me know in the comments below — I’m really looking forward to what you guys have to say. 2019, I made a new years resolution to get out of my shell and try new things. We’ll see what happens next leading into 2020…
Until next time,