Well, this has been an interesting week. I’ve had several people approach me and say, “you’re always so strong and confident.” Well, normally this is a good thing. But it caught me off guard. Because the truth is, I’m not. Let’s rewind a bit. Yes, I know that I am “fearfully and wonderfully made.” And I truly believe this…however, I don’t always feel this way.
While there are days that I feel great about myself, there are also times when I just don’t feel ‘it’. There are days when I question myself, or wish that I could be something that I’m not.
For example, I was at a party recently celebrating a friend’s birthday. I had a blast, and it was great catching up with friends and family members. However, the entire time, I found that I was comparing myself to other people. “I wish I could be as pretty as her,” or “I wish I could dance like that…” the list goes on and on. I mentally listed my imperfections, and things I would change to make myself ‘perfect’, wanted and desired.
Then I remembered a conversation I had with a friend. In our conversation, she told me that she felt like the #DUFF (Designated Ugly Fat Friend) to a mutual friend of ours. And this BLEW my mind. Why? ONE, because she is absolutely gorgeous, both inside and out. TWO, because I always felt like I was her #DUFF! Not that I was jealous of her, but I felt that she was cooler, prettier, and more popular than I could ever be. The type of girl who any guy would want, and would be lucky to have. Finding out that she had the same insecurities as I did, left me truly baffled.
This allowed me to realize that it’s all relative. The insecurities we have, and the things we feel make us unattractive, unworthy, and unwanted, is what we create for ourselves. It’s in our mindset.
So yes, I’m human. There will be days when I’ll feel unattractive. But, as long as I know in my heart, that I am all that and a bag of chips — as we used to say in middle school — that’s all that matters.
Together, let’s change our mindset. The next time you have a negative thought about yourself, or feel bad about how you look, etc., let’s view things from a different perspective. Instead of saying imperfect, say I‘m/perfect… or rather, I’m Perfect (the apostrophe makes all the difference :P). Realize all the things that make you ‘different’, also make you unique. That birthmark in the middle of your forehead, may be ‘different’, but it makes you you. It’s perfect. This limp I have, may be “different, but it makes me me. It’s an outward expression of my victory…not long ago I couldn’t even walk! While I may feel insecure about it, this limp shows how far I’ve come, it makes me unique, and it makes me ‘perfect’.
In short. Embrace your insecurities and your ‘imperfections’. It’s human to have these thoughts and feelings every once in a while. However, always remember that in being different, you are unique, fearfully and wonderfully made. And that, my friend, makes you perfect.
Until Next Time,