Oh You Don’t Know Because You’re Single

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard this from friends and family members. The idea that I wouldn’t know what it means to be in a relationship, or how to handle difficult situations in a relationship, simply because I’ve never dated. That’s right, I’ve never dated, and I understand there are some things that I’ve never experienced, but that does not mean that my advice, thoughts, knowledge, etc., does not matter. I don’t have to be shot by a bullet to KNOW that being shot hurts…really bad. I know how to love, I know what love is, I know what love is not. I know love shouldn’t make you change or lose who you are, your beliefs or values. Love doesn’t make you hurt yourself or feel bad about who you are. Love does not isolate you from your friends and family members. Love is not demeaning. Love is not bruising, and black eyes, and sore throats. I don’t have to be in love and in a relationship to know this is not love, and not a healthy relationship.

Being single does not mean that you don’t know anything about love, it just means you know enough to wait for it. My love is too valuable to be given to someone who is going to abuse it, and take my love for granted. I’d rather wait—give my heart and my love to someone who will value it, nourish it, and make it grow.

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Maya is owner of Pink Caboodle, specializing in Fashion and Body Positivity.