What’s up March!? We are three months into the new year…can you believe how fast the time is going?

In 2019, one of my goals is to make myself more available to new opportunities. New opportunities in all areas of life: career, friendships, dating.

Emphasis on dating.

In the past, I feel like I closed myself off to these types of opportunities. Simply because I was insecure.

I felt that no one would be interested in me because I was fat. And if they were, they had ulterior motives — any display of interest was one big joke, with me as the punch line.

I’ve done a lot of growing these last couple of years. I’m able to see how my own insecurities may have been the cause of my singleness.

I’m not perfect, I still have a lot of work to do. But, in 2019, I vowed to do things differently, no longer letting my insecurities hold me back from promising opportunities.

So with that being said, when the cute guy at my local store asked me for my number, I gave it to him.

That alone, is a big step for me. Instead of shriveling and panicking, I decided to play the game. I got his number in return.

And I waited. I waited for him to call me, text me, something.

But nothing happened.

Now, I’ve been raised to think that if a man is truly interested in you, he will show it. I still stand by this. But after talking to my dad about “boys and dating”, I’ve also learned that sometimes guys can be nervous too. Sometimes, we ladies have to take the first step.

Instead of waiting endlessly for this guy to call me. Or more likely, assume that he wasn’t interested in me and move on. So, I decided to do something different.

I shot my shot.

I sent him a text instead, letting him know: hey, I’m interested…let’s meet up for coffee, dinner, a movie, whatever.

I took the first step, and here’s what happened: Absolutely NOTHING!

Nothing happened. And it’s okay.

Instead of succumbing to feelings of being unwanted or unworthy, I felt proud.

I felt proud that I did something that once terrified me.

Does this sound crazy? It might be lol, but I felt proud that I did something, that I would have been terrified to do just last year.

And with this, I felt empowered. Empowered to make my own moves, outside of society standards or what other may think about me.

Life is too short not to live.

So that’s exactly what I’ll be doing…

Until Next Time,

Maya <3

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Maya is owner of Pink Caboodle, specializing in Fashion and Body Positivity.

20 Comments
  1. That’s right friend! Be bold, fearless, and COURAGEOUS! The other side of fear is an opportunity for something NEW….something or someone waiting for you! You have encouraged me to do the same!💙

  2. That’s right friend! Be bold, fearless, and COURAGEOUS! The other side of fear is an opportunity for something NEW….something or someone waiting for you! You have encouraged me to do the same!💙

  3. I’m so proud of you Maya. Dating can be scary but you took a step that many wouldn’t take and was ok with the outcome!! For that alone, I commend you!!

    1. Thanks so much!!! Its amazing how much hype we put into things like this, making it something so scary. When really, it wasn’t as big of a deal as I thought it would be lol

  4. Thanks for sharing. So much I want to say, but I’ll just say you are a beautiful person inside and out. Thanks for letting that shine. Wear your worth well. Love that you are doing you thing. You are right , if any man is interested he will make it known shy or not.

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